May all individuals gain freedom from suffering.
May all individuals find sustained health, happiness, and wholeness.
May I assist all individuals in gaining freedom from suffering.
May I assist all individuals in finding health, happiness, and wholeness. (Dacher, 2006)
When I read these words before relaxing I did not feel like I was going to have much of a reaction but in a relaxed state I surprised myself. I felt like I was letting go of some bitterness I didn't know I carried. It made me think of what a weight is lifted when you let something someone has done to you go. Many years ago I was in a relationship and after about a year I found out that he was married. I was devastated and angry. For a long time I thought about if I saw him again what I would do. I thought about what I would say to him or her. About 18 months later I ran into his wife's best friend and I realized I could tell the friend and she would tell the wife. It was at this moment that I had a sense of calm rush over me and I let it all go. I realized I wished him no harm and the last thing I wanted to put out into the universe was anymore hurt. I can't explain to you how therapeutic it was to let it completely go. I felt lighter without my burden of hate. Anyhow, long story short .... this is what this exercise reminded me of. I wish health and happiness to everyone I know even if they have wronged me because I realize that hate and anger are to heavy a burden to be carried.
When I look at my life and I think of what area needs more development I automatically think of the pyschospritual aspect. I run my own business 50+ hours a week, teach night class 10 hours a week and I am taking three college courses. (Have I mentioned I have the most tolerant husband in the world.) I find time to do everything except the mental and spiritual "me time." I need to create a priority of taking time for me and my health and wellness. I ned to implement a time where I can meditate and do exercises like the loving kindness exercise.
Dacher, E. S. (2006). Integral health: The path to human flourishing. Long Beach, CA: Basic Health Publications
Hi Pamela,
ReplyDeleteI tried this exercise a couple times in the past few days and had no real reaction. Yesterday, it was hard for me too because all that was going on with me. But repeating the phrase did bring relaxation although my thoughts were all over. So, I got up this morning and began the exercise again. This allowed me to focus and think differently and brought peace within about a personal situation that I have been struggling with. The peace came with the repeating of ... "May all individuals gain freedom from suffering.
May all individuals find sustained health, happiness and wholeness.
May I assist all individuals in gaining freedom from suffering.
May I assist all individuals in finding health, happiness and wholeness"
An awareness happened and I heard "let it go". As a result I am free from the bitterness I have been harboring since last year about the situation. In fact, today I realize this is why I was able to have a conversation with the person involved in the issue on Sunday after church.
The integral assessment showed an area of difficulty and suffering for me as biological and the line of development would be self-regulation focusing on moving and progressing from normal routine to subtle mind/body practices to highly refined spiritual/mind/body abilities. I have begun practing basic meditation tecniques and plan to continue because I like what's being revealed to me. It's helping!
Dru
Hello Pamela,
ReplyDeleteReading your post was quite an eye-opener for me. I think that is great that you realized hurting someone that hurt you so much wasn't the answer. And that by letting go of the hurt that someone else put on you, you were helping yourself. And now you are married to a wonderful, and patient man it seems. So God was just opening your life up for a better life. I think sometimes we want to react in the most negative way and want to show the people that hurt us just exactlty how bad it felt to be used like that. So all we want to do is inflict the pain on them that they have created on us. But what we don't realize is that when we learn to forgive and forget, we are helping ourselves in more way than one. Thank you so much for sharing this information.
Hello Pamela, I also like it when the exercises are on audio, it makes it much easier to relax. It is amazing how much that phrase actually works. It does help you let go of the bitterness and anger that you hold inside.It sounds like you are a busy women and taking time out for you would be beneficial, I had found yoga and meditation to be the best exercises for me to relax and just have me time. These exercises that we are doing in class is really opening my mind to many different relaxing techniques, I am now even having my husband do them with me to help him relax. We are both enjoying it!
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